Persistence and resilience only come from having been given the chance to work through difficult problems – Gever Tulley
The Honeymoon Period
For those who have started their own idea, it feels great when you first set off. Enthusiasm, inspiration and energy is sky high.
The honeymoon phase is in full swing and you feel like your idea is the best thing since sliced bread.
But whether it’s 4 months, 6 months or 12 months down the line, the honeymoon phase finishes, the novelty wears off, and that’s when you come crashing back down to earth.
You might start asking yourself questions such as:
Why does this feel like a chore now?
Why am I not as passionate about this anymore?
You hit the wall. You feel lonely. You want to quit.
But wait, don’t stop there, you’ve only just begun!
This is where the real work begins, and I’m here to give you a few helpful pieces of advice for sustaining perspective when the going gets tough.
How To Keep Going When The Going Gets Tough
If you have an idea that you want to take on the road, here’s a few things to remind yourself when the novelty wears off and you feel like you’re suddenly walking the road on your own:
1 – Beginners mindset – First, start with your mindset. I find it useful to work with a beginner’s mindset – there’s always something I can learn. In adopting a beginners mindset, you must be doing this for yourself and not for the approval of others. This means dropping your ego and expectations and exuding a heightened willingness to learn, despite any humiliation or vulnerability you might feel along the way.
2 – Everyone Has Ideas – In my experience with people, i’ve found that 80% of people love talking, rather than doing. Don’t let your idea get to your head. Whether it’s you, your mum, or the postman, everyone has good ideas. In contrast though, from what i’ve seen, few people have the ability to execute their ideas.
Before you even start, you need to get really serious with yourself and ask yourself the following question:
Are you willing to totally commit to this idea even if no one listens to you and you never get paid a cent in this lifetime?
3 – Keep A Positivity Folder – This is one of the best ideas I have for you. I keep a positivity folder for all personal messages from people as well as positivity surrounding the projects i am working on. I screenshot and store all the positive comments, and on a very rainy day, I find it very useful to scroll back through the folder to remind myself of why I started in the first place.
4 – It’s a marathon, not a sprint – Patience, boy. Despite what people tell you, there is no quick fix to get where you want to be. You have to create good habits by turning up every single day. It comes through long periods of hard work, clarity and focus. In most things I’ve ever tried, it’s always been a long game of persistence – and i’m willing to wait because i’m incredibly patient. If you’re happy with the process, then there’s no need to get or be anywhere. Anything that came so quickly in my life was always fleeting and eventually faded away. Are you willing to commit to the longer process?
5 – You are adding to the world – Reminding yourself that you are adding something to the world by executing your idea is a very powerful affirmation. How beautiful is that? Whether it’s a blog, a piece of art or a knitted hat, you’re plucking something from your imagination, taking it out of your mind, giving it life and opening it up for other people in the world to use. I don’t know about you, but reminding myself that can fascinate me all day long.
6 – 1 is greater than zero – Always choose depth over width. Your book doesn’t need to be read by everyone. You might not have any fans apart from yourself and perhaps your mum. In these times I find it very useful to remind myself that “1 is always greater > 0”. Despite what anyone else thinks, you are creating, you are moving forward and you are doing this purely because you love doing it. And if you’re still in doubt, make that “2 > 0” because I’ll be there to support you when the going gets tough.
Don’t get distracted by the seductive daze of your new idea. Get serious with yourself, and if you don’t have a burning desire for your project, don’t bother starting at all.
When the going gets tough, the most important thing to remind yourself is that you are doing this for you and only you. Because If you’re doing something for yourself, no matter what other people think, you’ll turn up and do it anyways.
Thanks for reading!
All the best, Daniel Beaumont, 2nd January 2017
About the Author
Hello everyone, I’m Dan – a 28-year-old social entrepreneur and writer from the north of England, living in Bucharest, Romania. I’m currently writing my first book about my 4-year journey around the world seeking wisdom and life-lessons from everyday people I met hitchhiking and Couchsurfing.
I discovered that travel, if approached with the right mindset, can be life-changing, and a trip combining travel, purpose and introspection is a great way to learn, challenge oneself and change for the better. Now my mission in life is to share what I’ve learned to inspire others to embark on their own journey of self-discovery and use travel, entrepreneurship and technology as a means to make the world a better place.
I’m also the founder of Podstel – a vision to help humanity belong and grow by creating a worldwide network of ‘homes’ that bring locals and travellers together to share their stories, passions and skills. The first two Podstels are open and thriving in Bucharest, so if you’re passing through, be sure to come and say hi, or stay the night with us.
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